I've said from the beginning that I would try to grieve openly. I want to normalize grief and make space for others to grieve how they need when their time comes. As a society, we hide from death and decay, but it comes for all of us. When it does, we must create a...
What exactly is an intellectual salon anyway?
An intellectual salon is an intimate gathering of diverse people hosted by a salonnière who moderates conversation in the pursuit of intellectual growth and artistic expression and delight.
The History of Intellectual Salons
Salons were a type of gathering common in 17th and 18th century France. Wealthy women hosted meetings in their home, often literally laying in bed with their friends seated on stools, couches, and chairs around them. The whole gathering centered around a lively moderated conversation with the hostess, or salonnière, at the center. The topics were varied but included a healthy mix of intellectualism and art. The goal was civil conversation and personal enlightenment.
Do Modern Intellectual Salons Still Exist?
Modern salons still exist though they are hard to find, which is why I decided to create a digital intellectual salon here on Living in Retrospect. This is my way of sharing my personal intellectual journey with you. It also happens to be a very good excuse for me to document the things I’m learning and connect with interesting people along the way.
Why I Chose a Salon Over a School
I went to school to be a teacher, but school is far too structured to create real learning. What I love about the intellectual salon is its formal yet intimate nature. Although the conversation was kept formal and focused on elevated things, the setting was usually the hostess’ bedroom.
I have spent years of my life in a classroom, but my best learning has occurred by bed or laptop in the comfort of my own bed. So it only makes sense that I would invite you into this most intimate form of education to truly share what I am learning. The imagery of the salon reminds us that our best thoughts often occur in rest and comfort and our best conversations only occur when we allow ourselves to be intimate and vulnerable.
Relax and enter a state of flow. Let your mind wander and expand. The salon is a safe environment where thought is cultivated.
Experience the Power of Synergy
The main reason that I’ve been drawn to the idea of an intellectual salon is because so many key historical figures and artists bumped into each other in salons and other intellectual gatherings throughout time. I’ve always thought it interesting that you could have so many brilliant people in one room at one time — before any of them have fully exhibited their greatness. We know the power of synergy. I believe that when a group of people come together seeking enlightenment, self-improvement, knowledge, and artistic creation, they are inspired and pushed well beyond their individual capacities in their personal work.
So please, comment. Share your own stories and experiences. Debate (civilly). Make the posts in this Intellectual Salon a genuine conversation.
Do You Have Ideas Or Art to Add To the Conversation?
The salonnière is in many ways a mother, sharing her own knowledge and inviting her beloveds to share theirs in intimate communion — in hopes that all might be bettered by association. So yes, the Intellectual Salon includes all of my personal intellectual, philosophical, and artistic content, but it is also the home for all of my favorite mind-expanding content from others. Find a growing collection of curated links, guest interviews, and content from experts in various fields. I will be following the whims of my heart and mind as to what I pursue, but if you have ideas or art to share, don’t hesitate to reach out.
Come. Sit on the couch and share with the rest of those who are gathered.
My Poetry:
My Husband Is Dead – Grief Comes in Waves
I've written a lot on social media about the loss of my husband, but I still haven't actually published a post about it. The reality is that I've only encountered one other instance in my life where everything was obliterated right to the ground, and that was nothing...
Announcing Collab and Plus Size Modeling with Dark Cottage
Every once in awhile, it feels like a Facebook ad was written just for you, and sometimes, you click through to read the comments and are pleasantly surprised. Such was the case when I stumbled onto an ad for Dark Cottage and saw someone engaging with plus size...
Solar Eclipse: The Time Between Two Totalities
Some people never experience a total solar eclipse, but I have had the opportunity to witness two in my adulthood -- both in my home state. As a poet and someone who sees the sacred nature of cycles and seasons, I have spent a lot of time reflecting on the...
Why Obsidian is the Best Free Evernote Alternative + How to Export Evernote Notes to Obsidian
Seeking a free Evernote alternative now that Evernote added limitations to free accounts? I saw it coming and made the switch to open source Obsidian just before Evernote announced that free accounts would be limited to one folder and 25 notes, essentially rendering...
Podcasts by Ella Boleynn (I’m Finally Ready to Speak)
Skip the story and jump straight to links for the three new podcasts by Ella Boleynn. I spent 8 years hibernating from this blog and the public eye as I decomposed and rebirthed myself and my voice. And now, I am finally ready to speak. The last several months, it has...
An Open Letter To The Primary Kids I Taught Who Are Now Grown
This open letter to the primary kids I taught who are now grown was featured in an episode of sEXyMOfo: Deconstructing Mormonism, Healing Religious Trauma, and Overcoming Repression. Jump to the end of the post to listen to the full episode. Letter to the Primary Kids...
Bear Folklore + A Reading of Snow-White & Rose-Red
I was raised with no concept of large animals you needed to fear. I never really considered the bear; they only seemed to exist in movies, zoos, and fairy tales. But lately, I've been drawn to cycles of renewal and hibernation, and as I enter this new season in my...
Devotional Cooking
Cooking is dead, and our souls are malnourished. We have been severed from the systems that nourish our bodies and souls. Not only does this negatively impact our health, but also our relationship with nature, our communities, and our families. Devotional cooking is...
How My Mormon Ex-Husband’s Sex Scandal Saved Me
It's been 8 years since my Mormon ex-husband's sex scandal shook up my world and this blog. I've come a long way since I first wrote I love him. I hate him. (My husband's in jail), and none of it has been easy. From the residual trauma of stalking to living with PTSD,...
How to Overcome Divorce Anxiety
One of my most popular posts is my personal story about how to overcome divorce anxiety*. That story talks about what a profound impact the realization that I was already solely responsible for my life had on my ability to move forward with divorce -- ultimately...
Self-Healing Through Travel: How Travel Heals Us
Self-healing through travel is one of the most human things we can do. Learn how traveling heals us and start your own journey.
Travel Tips for Living the Traveler’s Life
Regardless of whether you are seeking travel tips on how to choose a travel destination, or how to get the most out of a travel experience, these are my best travel tips.
Intellectual Salon Posts
Alison Krauss – Melancholy Music & Identity
I checked something off of my bucket list today. I saw Alison Krauss and learned something about melancholy music and identity.
