So Annan and I just celebrated* (explained below) our third anniversary in December, and we are already pumped for Valentine’s Day. This week, I am swapping love-related questions with Bernadyn
from B is 4. (Click here for the post where she answers my questions
.) She blogs about crafts, recipes, reviews, and a whole lot of family stories about her adorable family of 4. In other words, it is my kind of site. You should definitely give her site a look! Since Bernadyn and her husband are about to celebrate their eighth wedding anniversary, we decided our them should be:
This is my first time participating in #AskAwayFriday. Basically, we each come up with a list of 10 questions and post our answers on our blogs to help our readers get to know us better. So, it’s just like “Truth or Truth” but for bloggers. Please tell me I am not the only loser out there who played Truth or Dare without the dares! Anyway, let’s get started!
1. How did you and your husband meet?
We met at a Young Single Adult ward (church meeting group) where we drifted around in similar circles. The first time we ever hung out was on his 26th birthday when we both went geocaching for the first time with a mutual friend. I didn’t realize it was his birthday at the time. I ended up treating him to Denny’s afterwards when we all went there after a long night. Then, we didn’t see each other for awhile. Later, I ended up moving in with his ex-girlfriend, and they were still friends. What should have been a Jerry Springer episode ended up being a blessing. If it wasn’t for her, we probably wouldn’t be together today. Our romance was definitely not your fairytale love at first sight story. It took a lot of hard work and trial and error. But as soon as we both committed (at the same time), things fell into place seamlessly.
2. What’s your favorite quality about him?
He is full of goodness and kindness, but he has a slight bad-boy edge. I have always been a very cautious, safe, and anxious person. I mean… I never even jumped out of the swings when I was a kid. Sometimes I play life a little too safe, and he helps break up the monotony. His rebellious, risk-taking, edgy side helps me be a better person. He challenges me to be less fearful, to try new things, and to improve myself daily.
3. What’s your dream date with him?
Dinner at a nice restaurant and an in-room couple’s massage at a nice hotel. If there was no limit to vacation time and money? A massive trip around Europe and a trans-Atlantic cruise back home. We went on a last-minute road trip to LA a couple years ago, and that was pretty awesome.
4. What’s your favorite part of being married?
Marriage is like an endless sleepover with your very best friend (and added benefits). I love just having someone to do the mundane parts of life with. Oh, and the fact that he rubs my back when I’m hurting certainly ranks high on my list of marriage benefits!
5. What marriage advice would you give to someone who isn’t yet married?
I know that everyone says communication is so important. But they are right. I think the best marriage advice I ever received was to ask for what you want out of your relationship and then be grateful when you receive it. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. Don’t hint around about what you want. And don’t feel like it isn’t as romantic or nice if you have to ask for it. This isn’t just about presents, either. If you aren’t receiving enough love, attention, physical affection, compliments, whatever… just ask. Your partner won’t know how to make you happy if you don’t tell him/her.
6. What are some Valentine’s Day gifts you would like to receive?
A massage, cuddle time, chocolate covered strawberries, and a heartfelt card.
7. Do you already know what you are doing on Valentine’s Day? If so, what is it or if not, what would you like to do?
Oh goodness! We don’t plan that far in advance. We don’t really like to go out when things are super-busy so we will probably go out to dinner on Monday night instead of Saturday (the hubby has Mondays off right now). It would be really fun to go to the art museum or somewhere else we could take photos of one another too. On Saturday, we’ll probably have sparkling grape juice and just hang out together. That’s how we do most holidays.
8. What is the most important thing you have learned so far in your own marriage?
Honestly, there are so many little things that make all the difference in our relationship. For instance, I know that if I am ready to go, but continue doing extra stuff – usually refining my hair or makeup – he will think I’m not ready so he will keep doing stuff, and then we will end up being late. Now, I know to be explicit and say, “I’m ready to go when you are. I’m just doing extra stuff.” That’s silly, but it’s just one of a list of countless tiny little lessons that help our relationship work more smoothly. The big lessons have already been mentioned in other questions.
9. You just celebrated your third anniversary last month, congrats!! What did you do to celebrate?
Annan actually had to work 12-13 hours on our anniversary and every day for two weeks before and after. So… we haven’t celebrated for real yet. Our plan is to go stay at a fancy hotel and eat dinner at The Melting Pot or a local Brazilian restaurant. On the actual day of our anniversary, we sat down and had 30 minutes to eat spaghetti together. We worked so hard to carve that 30 minutes out of his sleep too! It was the first year we haven’t done something really cool for our anniversary, but I’m grateful he has such a good job. And, we did take the time to make a memory.
10. If you could go on a date with someone famous for Valentine’s Day (before you met your hubby!) who would you choose and why?
You must be trying to get me in trouble! I would have to say David Tennant from Doctor Who, but I know that I would have been disappointed because I was in love with the character, not the actor. I honestly haven’t ever been super crazy about famous people (well, since the days of Tobey Maguire as Spider Man). The ones who seem pretty genuine to me are Ellen Degeneres, Taylor Swift, and Johnny Depp. I’m not into women, but if I could call it a date so I could hang out with Ellen or Taylor Swift, I would totally do that! While Johnny Depp is an awesome person, I would be absolutely terrified to go on a date (or even hang out) with him. He is way too cool and edgy for me.
Thanks Bernadyn for these great questions! Don’t forget to check out her blog over at B is 4
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